Children are a wonderful gift.
They have an extraordinary
capacity
to see into the heart of things
and to expose sham and humbug for what
they are.
- Bishop Desmond Tutu
Years ago, renown author and lecturer, Leo Buscalia was
asked to judge a contest, the purpose of which was to find the most caring
child.
The winner was a 4-year-old
child whose next-door neighbor, an elderly man, had recently lost his wife of
many years. Upon seeing the man
cry, the little boy went to him, climbed up on his lap and sat there
quietly. When his mother asked him
what he had said to the man, the boy said, “Nothing, I just wanted to help him
cry.” A love so pure and unencumbered by societal influence or ego!
After stumbling upon this story again this week, I set out
to see what other children had to say about love. I share what I found with you, with hopes that
it will bring a smile and a bit of sweet perspective:
“When
my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails
anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands
got arthritis too. That’s love.” Rebecca- age 8
“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is
different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy – age 4
“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on
shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5
“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of
your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6
“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri –
age 4
“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she
takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” Danny – age
7
“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired
of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy
are like that. They look gross when they kiss” Emily – age 8
“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you
stop opening presents and listen.”
Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)
“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with
a friend who you hate,” Nikka – age 6
(We need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)
“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he
wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7
“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who
are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6
“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared.
I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He
was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.” Cindy – age 8
“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone
else kissing me to sleep at night.”
Clare – age 6
“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” Elaine-age 5
“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still
says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” Chris – age 7
“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left
him alone all day.”
Mary Ann – age 4
“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all
her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” Lauren – age 4
“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and
little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7
“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t
think it’s gross.”
Mark – age 6
“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it.
But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” Jessica – age 8
I’ve been so moved by these sweet words of wisdom, I just
can’t stop thinking about them. I hope they’ve touched you, too! Let’s all try heeding the simple
lessons of these beautiful children.
This week let’s all share our French fries, make friends with someone we
hate, shoot little stars, stop (opening presents, watching TV, sending texts,
rushing) and listen, and if we mean it - say it a lot!
Namaste,
Dorothy